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PUSSY GAME TOO STRONG EVEN FOR THE DEVIL.
Hey, no problem. :)
I’m no expert or anything but I’ve noticed through the last eleven years that what I thought was a weird specificity of mine had happened to many people I know. There are so many things about having a vagina that we’re not warned about —and I still make discoveries by the ‘old’ age of 27 years so don’t worry you have time. Just like any part of the body, genitals work better after some training.
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Vaginism is not rare at all, even though no one talks about it, especially among young people, people whose sex life is just beginning. I used to a few years ago too.
First of all, find another gyno, like IMMEDIATELY! I don’t know who they are but an ethical doctor doesn’t use a speculum on a virgin vagina (virgin as in not used to be penetrated)! Never, unless you have gynormous problems but that wasn’t the case. This is just plain useless, it causes unnecessary pain and anxiety, and frankly if they saw you crying and kept going they’re unprofessional.
Now I won’t lie, it’s hard to find a good gyno, especially one to whom you can talk about these issues. When I was still suffering, the one I saw stared at me like a fish on a barbecue, her eyes empty, and she didn’t say anything useful to me. But when they gave me a medical exam and assured me that my vagina and uterus were perfectly normal, without anything strange, no weird shape or bumps or anything, believe it or not it was a huge relief! And perhaps was it the unpleasant touch of the gyno but afterwards my boyfriend’s touch was much, much more appreciated and I relaxed easily. Now this might not be the best option for you yet, because you haven’t had many sexual experiences. I wouldn’t recommend (and I don’t think anybody does), full gyno exams before you had sex a few times.
About the tampons thing, don’t worry, despite what the ads say, a lot of people don’t use tampons, even when they’ve inserted much worse into their vaginas. Some people just aren’t into it, that’s not a problem.
You say you were relaxed, just because you were drunk doesn’t necessarily mean you were relaxed (also under influence our bodies react differently). We want to, we try our best to relax but sometimes it’s deeper. It’s normal to be anxious about the first times, and unconsciously we can ‘block’, our muscles can cramp without us wanting it. Even if we think we’re cool, the vagina goes all “hey I can have a gag reflex too!”. And then starts the vicious circle of being afraid because of a previous pain, causing pain again, causing anxiety again, causing pain again, etc.
I would say, you should try finding a regular partner you can trust, a boyfriend or girlfriend, or a FWB, with whom you can experiment things. Have sex, just not penetrative sex, receive oral sex, get them to take care of your clit, just have sex without focusing on the inside part yet, there’s no hurry, no need to rush. If you have to spend months without trying to get inside, so be it, what’s the big deal? The more comfortable you’ll get being intimate with others and being touched, the more you will associate these sensations to pleasure, and your vagina will have fewer reasons to close the door. And of course, of course even for just fingering, or to stick something as thin as a pencil, don’t hesitate to use tons of lube, it’s not just for anal. Lube is the best friend of all kinds of penetration -the cold soothes the burn.
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